Dreams, Hopes and Wishes. Changing your attitude on changing expectations.

Woman Dreaming by Alison Chakir

Woman Dreaming by Alison Chakir

Once upon a time, in a suburb far far away, there lived in a split level a young princess.

The young princess had many dreams, of being an astronaut, a professional horseback rider, an actress or a writer.  In all of those dreams, she lived in a little cape-cod house, in a little town way up north where when it snowed…it snowed big.

She would have two kids, two cars, two dogs and a husband with a pear tree (in the back yard of course).  And her property would be large, big enough for a vegetable garden and play area.  She would live in the country where her kids could roam and get into as much trouble as possible.  There would be a barn to hold her two Arabian horses (one black, one chestnut).  Her husband would be good and kind and intelligent.  He would be strong, like her father, and handsome.  Most of all he would make her laugh until her sides hurt and the tears ran.

And she would have all of this, DO all of this by the time she was twenty-five.  Twenty-six at most.

Now the princess is all grown up, past her cut off date for all her dreams.  And yet she still dreams and hopes and wishes.

It’s just that those things have all changed.  Now, her little cape-cod is a flat, not in the far north where when it snows….it snows big.  But in a city in the central part of India.  She might still get the two kids and two dogs, but not the two cars.  Also, the land and garden and barn for the two Arabian horses are gone as well.  Now they are replaced with a badminton court, pool, courtyard and play area for children.  Instead of two cars, she will have two motorcycles…perhaps down the line, one bike and a small car.

And yet she is happy with this new dream, these new hopes and wishes.

Why?

Because, life changes.  It’s sometimes exactly what you hoped for and sometimes is not.  The important thing to see is that each new representation is just as precious and special as the last (or the next).  To realize that you aren’t really letting go of those dreams, you are only modifying them.  To retain that former dream, and build on it, making it far better than it was before.

You see, in the princess’s real (and new) future, her fiancé and soon to be husband is everything that she wished, hoped and dreamed of.  He is good, kind and intelligent.  He is strong, like her father, and very handsome.  Best of all, he makes her laugh until her sides hurt and the tears run.

And the princess knows that there is still the possibility for anything to happen.  They may still get that cape-cod cottage in the north.  She may someday have property big enough for horses.  She may even still become a writer.  Nothing is impossible, if you can dream it.  That’s the point.

So, the next time you lay your head down to sleep, as you close your eyes prepare yourself for the dreams to come.  Revel in them.  Love them.  Work on making them a reality and if things change or evolve over time…all the better.

Life is constantly changing.  Dreams follow suit.  Make sure that you do as well.