A Beginning

Marigold

You’ve seen the movie or maybe you haven’t seen this particular one (and really I can’t blame you too much if you haven’t) but atleast one just like it.

The premise is this, American girl meets Indian boy.  They fall in love.  They want to marry.  Indian boy tells Indian Family and everything falls apart.  In Bollywood, the boy and girl always wind up together with everyone happily ever after.  In Hollywood it could go that way or it could also have the boy marrying the girl his family arranged for him and the girl left knee deep in tissues wondering “Kya hua?”

This entire Blog was started to be a place for rational, logical, and sometimes very emotional issues to be dealt with concerning your Intercultural relationship.  Searching the web can sometimes be a fruitless search of “American girl + Indian boy + how to tell family” or “How to get Indian Parents to accept Non Indian Bahu (daughter in law)”.  These searches generally bring up the Yahoo Questions where the answers are not so helpful and the success stories are rare indeed.  There just isn’t much out there.

If you’re in this kind of relationship, this Blog is here to help.  I’m here to help as much as I can.  I’ve done a lot of research on this topic.  I know people who have experienced it.  I’ve experienced it.  I am living it.

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to be posting as much information a I can to help get this site up and functional.  I plan on having “real life success” stories, examples, helpful tips, advice and links for other resources.  Mainly though, this is here just to let you know that you aren’t alone.  There lots of us out there and there are lots of success stories.  Have faith, but most of all, have patience.

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

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16 thoughts on “A Beginning

  1. Hi there
    I am dealing with an Intercultural relationship situation too. However my story ( which is still in the process) has taken many twists and turns. I like the name of your blog, like you, I went to school in the deep south, the bible belt of the US, I also met my white fiancee’ in South Carolina ( but she is from Colorado).
    You might have seen me on another similar blog too. I am starting to follow your blog now , my fiancee’ does follow this blog quite often though and it’s got some great topics.
    I look forward to being here and participating in discussions 🙂

    Raghavan

    • Welcome Raghavan!

      Yes, I’ve seen you comment over on Sharell’s blog! Thank you for the wonderful comment! I’m glad to know that your fiance follows my blog, I’m a bit naughty and don’t post as much as I should! But life here in India either keeps me busy or keeps me tongue tied, so I find it difficult to keep up sometimes! 😉

      I’m looking forward to hearing more about your own story and wish you all the luck and happiness in the world!!

    • What is a bible belt?
      You seem to be hindu frm ur name does it affect hindus ?
      I thought it was happily ever after for all religions in USA coz of liberalism and secular credentials.
      Anyway best of luck brother.

    • K. I see. Also thank u for the link. Found that a bible belt exists in India too!! I had heard of worst situations in Naga bt didn know this term.
      But if they were real followers of JESUS CHRIST, then there wouldnt have been been any problem.
      The real problem in the world is people don’t really follow their religion.

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  3. I am loving your blog and the seemingly satirical nature of your writing style!

    The pictures are ever so pretty and being someone in an inter cultural match, I adore relating to experiences others share with me….

  4. THIS IS SO TRUE!

    i am in a relationship like that right now, and everything you are saying is correct. His parents hate me and even though they say its not my skin, i have a feeling it is. How do i get them to like me? ive tried being polite and nice, even saying that ill switch religions if itll please them but nothing seems to work.They moved from India 7 years ago bu still aren’t used to American dating culture!

    • Oh Wow Kathryn….what can I say except that you can’t please all of the people all of the time! 🙂 The only people you should be worried about is you and your significant other. If everything works properly, the parents will see that and eventually (with time) agree. Everything in it’s own time and pace you know? Don’t change who you are fundamentally to make them happy because it won’t work. You won’t be happy and essentially it’s only a bandaid for them. Get my point? You might try talking to your guy to ask him what he thinks his parents issues are with your relationship and then see what you think can be done with that. Never just assume. 🙂 You could also try talking to them openly. 🙂 Let me know if I can help with any other advice!

    • Sorry sister, i don’t know what ur specific circumstance is but Indians become more religious and stereotype when they go US generally. They must be afraid of high divorce rate. White or fair girls are high in demand , but the problem s America is known for its divorce rate, . Where as Indians want a life relation. Its just their fear nothing else.
      Don’t try to be someone else. And religion isnt somethng what you change for someone. SANATAN DHARMA has to come from heart not from marriage or some conversion centre. Many hindus in India are there who are hindu just in name ,.
      And we can’t cönvince everyone in our life.

  5. Ola, what’s up amigos? 🙂
    Hope to get some help from you if I will have some quesitons.
    Thanks in advance and good luck! 🙂

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